Don't forget: MANY people have conditions that conspire to make them overweight/obese no matter what they do. I read what Kang wrote, and I swear to you, the passive-aggressive hatefulness of it made me feel like shit about myself yet again ... As if everything unspoken in our culture doesn't do enough to make me feel like shit about myself.
I'm a 5'8" female with 20" across shoulders (so, no small bone structure here). My BMI is 33 (Class I Obese, the lowest classification of obesity). There are legitimate_medical_reasons for my BMI, but narcissistic, emotionally ugly, bullying people like Kang say that it's a lack of discipline and hard work that causes it. The drum beat of people like her just_never_stops. And you had to add your drum, AC?
See, I have a hiatal hernia which literally makes me feel hungry every.single.hour.of.every.single.day if I don't have the $ to refill my TWO Rx acid medications (which I don't always have). Combined with not-well-treated sleep disorders (yes, FIVE diagnosed sleep disorders, only two of which are moderately-well treated) that sap my strength and energy within 8 hours of waking, and some days it's all I can do to not fall asleep at the wheel on the way home. (Which, of course would be blamed on me, too, for being irresponsible ... Just like being fat.)
I'm single, and I don't have another income in my house besides my own. When it's all I can do to work some days and I have no energy after the 8-hour mark every day, the drum beat makes me feel like a failure as_a_human_being. I'd bet money that a large percentage of the people who complained are in my situation, or know someone who is, or who are enlightened enough to have some fscking empathy and the ability to realize that not_everyone_is_you, AC and Kang.
Our culture's fat shaming has GOT to stop, and I'm glad people complained, and I'm glad there's a wider dialogue because ... WTF do you, AC, and Kang and all the rest propose I, and others with legitimate medical reasons for high BMIs (whom y'all characterize constantly as 'i am as fat as fuck, dont want to stop eating but cant handle being told what i am'), actually do? Hide under bridges until we die so as not to offend your eyes with our weight and burden your health insurance premiums with issues that we didn't ask to have? Yeah, that's productive.
Trust me, we'd like to be fscking normal. Seriously. We'd like to be thin, and trim, and active, and everything our culture programs us as children and drum-beats into our heads every waking moment of every waking day that we should be. We have the weight of Atlas in shame in our souls already because of the childhood programming and constant cultural drumbeat, so understand where we're coming from when we scream ENOUGH!!
I'm glad she was smacked back down like the narcissistic troll she is ('What's YOUR excuse?' she asks, because, yeah, everyone's just_like_her), but I personally think FB should have simply removed the post if they were going to take any action at all. She deserves a good proverbial smacking (which she received), but her non-apology makes it clear that she can't be taught a damned thing about human kindness.
Weight is complex. There are many, many reasons people are overweight, and the reasons are often complex. The're often medical, and they're also often emotional. When humans gain weight, their physiology is fulfilling its evolutionary destiny and no amount of crippling the psyches of affected fatties is going to change any of this.
How about an intelligent conversation about a multidisciplinary approach to obesity reduction and life-long weight control? We have so much technology at our disposal to have such a conversation, but we're using it to continue the cultural shaming. Kang and you and people like you, AC, are not helping. Please just stop.
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Slut? Really? What the hell does writing a C&D letter have to do do with her sex life?
Isn't "bitch" the word you're looking for here?
Such misogyny burns you more than it does her.
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Don't forget: MANY people have conditions that conspire to make them overweight/obese no matter what they do. I read what Kang wrote, and I swear to you, the passive-aggressive hatefulness of it made me feel like shit about myself yet again ... As if everything unspoken in our culture doesn't do enough to make me feel like shit about myself.
I'm a 5'8" female with 20" across shoulders (so, no small bone structure here). My BMI is 33 (Class I Obese, the lowest classification of obesity). There are legitimate_medical_reasons for my BMI, but narcissistic, emotionally ugly, bullying people like Kang say that it's a lack of discipline and hard work that causes it. The drum beat of people like her just_never_stops. And you had to add your drum, AC?
See, I have a hiatal hernia which literally makes me feel hungry every.single.hour.of.every.single.day if I don't have the $ to refill my TWO Rx acid medications (which I don't always have). Combined with not-well-treated sleep disorders (yes, FIVE diagnosed sleep disorders, only two of which are moderately-well treated) that sap my strength and energy within 8 hours of waking, and some days it's all I can do to not fall asleep at the wheel on the way home. (Which, of course would be blamed on me, too, for being irresponsible ... Just like being fat.)
I'm single, and I don't have another income in my house besides my own. When it's all I can do to work some days and I have no energy after the 8-hour mark every day, the drum beat makes me feel like a failure as_a_human_being. I'd bet money that a large percentage of the people who complained are in my situation, or know someone who is, or who are enlightened enough to have some fscking empathy and the ability to realize that not_everyone_is_you, AC and Kang.
Our culture's fat shaming has GOT to stop, and I'm glad people complained, and I'm glad there's a wider dialogue because ... WTF do you, AC, and Kang and all the rest propose I, and others with legitimate medical reasons for high BMIs (whom y'all characterize constantly as 'i am as fat as fuck, dont want to stop eating but cant handle being told what i am'), actually do? Hide under bridges until we die so as not to offend your eyes with our weight and burden your health insurance premiums with issues that we didn't ask to have? Yeah, that's productive.
Trust me, we'd like to be fscking normal. Seriously. We'd like to be thin, and trim, and active, and everything our culture programs us as children and drum-beats into our heads every waking moment of every waking day that we should be. We have the weight of Atlas in shame in our souls already because of the childhood programming and constant cultural drumbeat, so understand where we're coming from when we scream ENOUGH!!
I'm glad she was smacked back down like the narcissistic troll she is ('What's YOUR excuse?' she asks, because, yeah, everyone's just_like_her), but I personally think FB should have simply removed the post if they were going to take any action at all. She deserves a good proverbial smacking (which she received), but her non-apology makes it clear that she can't be taught a damned thing about human kindness.
Weight is complex. There are many, many reasons people are overweight, and the reasons are often complex. The're often medical, and they're also often emotional. When humans gain weight, their physiology is fulfilling its evolutionary destiny and no amount of crippling the psyches of affected fatties is going to change any of this.
How about an intelligent conversation about a multidisciplinary approach to obesity reduction and life-long weight control? We have so much technology at our disposal to have such a conversation, but we're using it to continue the cultural shaming. Kang and you and people like you, AC, are not helping. Please just stop.