New Use For Facebook: Apologizing To That Guy You Mugged Three Decades Ago
from the there's-an-app-for-that dept
If all you did was pay attention to headlines featuring everyone’s favorite/most-hated social network, you would think that all Facebook was good for was being confusing about hate-speech, giving the government as much information about yourself as possible, and apparently being directly responsible for suicides. However, now that we’re knee-deep in yet another holiday season, the hallmarks of which are consumer-on-consumer taser violence and having to argue with your crazy uncle over various family dinners that Barack Obama and George Bush Jr. probably aren’t lizard-people from the planet Fascism here to steal our freedoms and freshly harvested apple pies, it’s time that we had a nice story to warm the cockles of all our hearts.
This story of holiday cheer and goodwill towards all peoples begins auspiciously, with one man mugging another man for his bus pass on the steps of the American Museum of Natural History. That was over three decades ago, however. More recently, the mugger, a Michael Goodman, happened to come across his victim on Facebook.
“You may not remember this,” Goodman wrote Soffel in the comments underneath the post, “but a long long time ago I walked up the steps of The Museum of Natural History one afternoon, trying to look like a tough guy to [somebody] & saw you standing there at the top of the steps, I walked up to you & (mugged) you for your bus pass. Finally I can say,” he continued. “I”M VERY SORRY that you had to go through that crap that day long ago, I wish it had never happened but it did.”
Claude Soffel, his victim, was every single bit as gracious as Goodman was contrite, responding directly to the Facebook post.
“Michael A. Goodman, clearly your a “bigger man” today. wow. Memory is a funny thing, I recognize your name now, as well. So, apology accepted. Interestingly, I have dedicated a large portion of my life to helping other men be the man they have always wanted to be, and moments like this one continue to fuel my faith that the battle may be uphill but so rewarding. Any man who draws aline for himself, “Today I step forward for myself, my family, and humanity” is a hero to me. So let us now, jointly, put this in its proper place, behind us.”

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Comments on “New Use For Facebook: Apologizing To That Guy You Mugged Three Decades Ago”
having to argue with your crazy uncle over various family dinners that Barack Obama and George Bush Jr. probably aren’t lizard-people from the planet Fascism here to steal our freedoms and freshly harvested apple pies,
Other than the lizard-people position (I’d lean more towards serpents myself), what is there to argue about?
Lizard people
…ok, maybe they are are lizard people, maybe they’re not.
But the important think is that one of those lizard people are on my side.
I ain’t sayin which one.
Similar thing happened me. Two different guys that bullied me pretty badly as a kid back in the 60’s wrote to me on Facebook to apologize. No hard feelings here after nearly 50 years. I have enjoyed writing to them.
It’s nice to read some good news, I wish there was more of it more often.
HALLELUJAH HE’S SEEN THE LIGHT! IT’S A CHRISTMAS MIRACLE!
Way kewl!
This is just awesome! 🙂 Both of these people need a great big hug from all of us!
Now give me your bus pass
Apology, even if decades late, nice…but a keyboard is never a substitute for meeting face to face to establish human contact. Technology does many wonderful things to facilitate communication, but one should not confuse electronic communication with actual person-to-person contact and communication.
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In the cases I mentioned above where two guys that bullied me as a kid apologized on Facebook, One is a retired firefighter living in Memphis and the other is a minister in Ottawa KS. I would hardly expect them to drive for hours to apologize for things they did decades ago. I was glad to hear from them and they both said that they were relieved I bore no grudge. They may have been dicks when we were kids but it sounds like they have redeemed their lives. I kind of got a laugh when I reminded Dave how one time when he was picking on me I smacked him in the head with my guitar and cracked it. (The guitar, not his head!)
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but a keyboard is never a substitute for meeting face to face… one should not confuse electronic communication with actual person-to-person contact and communication.
While face to face can be nice, I’ve found that you can build incredibly strong bonds with people communicating online. You may just be doing it wrong.
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It depends on what you expect, some times there is no substitute for a keyboard, or a letter, or a book, or a phone, or morse code.
Sometimes the human contact is not welcome, unwanted, dangerous, shameful, disrespectful and the keyboard is the bridge that allow others to overcome the barriers.
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Better electronic contact than no contact.
at-least the guy apologized, whether it was 3 years later or not….., but it still don’t excuse what he did at the time.