Should You Spy On Your Kids' Every Online Move?

from the missing-the-point dept

With the news breaking yesterday concerning MySpace getting sued because a teenaged girl who used the site was sexually assaulted by someone she met through the site, it's no surprise that we're going to see more and more stories about how to "protect" kids online. There's been a glut of these stories recently, and they seem to involve more and more draconian solutions. The latest, in USA Today, is no exception, profiling a number of parents who seem to think the only answer is to monitor and record every single thing that their kids do. In fact, in one story, a mother watches from another room as her son received an instant message that included "an obscene phrase and link to a sexual website." The kid, smart enough to know not to click on it, didn't. So what happens? The mother still suspended his instant messaging privileges. That's not raising a kid. It's over-protecting. Only one family profiled seems to actually focus on parenting: teaching the kids that the world isn't always a safe place, and explaining to them the risks they might face, how to recognize them and how to avoid them. They have regular dinner discussions about those risks. In other words, they're teaching the kids how to deal with the risks, not hiding them from the risks. Over-protecting kids puts them in a difficult position when they inevitably do face a risk: they don't know how to deal with. Educating kids, teaching them how to do the right thing, and trusting them to think on their own is what parenting is about. Being over protective and then suing everyone else as soon as anything goes wrong only teaches kids how to blame others and put their head in the sand about real risks.

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    whitepawn_ootnw, 20 Jun 2006 @ 6:49pm

    Its Easy To Blame Others

    it is easy to blame others for any problem, but what most people dont seem to realize is to know who to actually blame, because they are blinded by one sided stories. for example, stories about young girls being sexually assaulted or even kidnapped due to online activites. well, thats a very sad story indeed, and yes the perpetrator should be held responsible for his/her doing.

    but it should also be noted that it was the girl who was also (to an extent) at fault. because they were naive enough to meet up with strangers, or even giving them personal information. and if these people were close friends to them, then it was also their ignorance of not realizing that people who have to ability to take advantage of them, may also possess the will to do so.

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