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   neil, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:12pm

   
   

   i agree give a man a fish he eats for a day teach a man to fish he eats for a life time
   
   chaperon your kids and they will folow the rules without learning them until you are gone then they will need to learn without any guidence

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   nanny state

   

   another mike, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:21pm

   
   

   a book just came out, "A Dangerous Book for Boys." it dedicates a section to letters written by a british nanny that came over in the colonial days. she marvelled at the self-reliance and dependability of the american boys as compared to the coddled british boys.

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   Rekrul, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:26pm

   
   

   She also goes on...

   
   
   "She"? The author's name is Steve Rock.

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   DanC, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:32pm

   
   

   "She"? The author's name is Steve Rock.
   And the expert cited in the article giving the advice is a female named Parry Aftab.

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   Blaming YouTube

   

   Nebetsu, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:35pm

   
   

   You also have to consider the social networking suicide groups that have taken place in the past. These angry parents and deceptive news reporters are blaming Facebook and MySpace for giving the children the opportunity to create these these and not banning the group fast enough.
   
   Vaughan is a company that makes hammers. It would be silly for Vaughan to be responsible if little Billy smashed little Timmy's head open with one of their fine products. So why do people keep blaming the tool and the producer of the tool for the actions of the people using it for the not intended purpose?

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   Anonymous Coward, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:41pm

   
   

   "She also goes on (like others) to blame YouTube for making kids want to do bad stuff. "
   
   Might be some truth to that. I've seen some youtube videos that have made me want to kill the creator.

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   Re: Blaming YouTube

   

   EVIL_BASTARD, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 1:58pm

   
   

   Same reason they blame the gun and not the murderer or the mental health privacy laws that should have prevented the crazy from getting a weapon in the first place, it's easier.
   No real thinking required.
   
   Combine fear + humans amazing ability to rationalize with being intellectually lazy and you can see how people come up with all types of complete bullshit masqueraded as "solutions" to problems.

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   Re: Re: Blaming YouTube

   

   Bill, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 2:16pm

   
   

   "Same reason they blame the gun and not the murderer..."
   
   Yeah, because a gun can be used for so many other things beside killing and the Internet cannot.

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   Anonymous Coward, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 2:16pm

   
   

   he'll probably get bored of fish after a while though...

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    Re: Re: Re: Blaming YouTube

    

    Le Blue Dude, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 2:35pm

    
    

    Well, the gun CAN be used for things other then killing. Like, for example, self defense, and hunting....
    
    And of course there's a hell of a lot the internet can do, with little upper boundary.

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    Parents should teach thier kids that not all mains

    

    KT, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 2:37pm

    
    

    is good or truthful or unbiased.

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    Re: Re: Re: Blaming YouTube

    

    The Swiss Cheese Monster, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 2:54pm

    
    

    I have used guns all my life - I have never killed a thing. They are good for a lot more than just killing.

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    Re: Re: Re: Re: Blaming YouTube

    

    Anonymous Coward, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 2:57pm

    
    

    Le Blue Dude-- while I think I get your point, technically both things you mention ARE killing.

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    Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Blaming YouTube

    

    AIR FORCE AIRMAN, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 3:13pm

    
    

    Lol, that is true Coward. However, I am a parent, and I think the best way to go about things with children, is to be honest with them, because when you lie and they figure it out, then its even worse, exposure is a hell of a thing.

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    My Kid

    

    teknosapien, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 4:14pm

    
    

    My Child has been on the internet since age 4 and is now 16. She has turned out pretty decent. I did however make her connect through a proxy server so that I could look at the logs and make sure where she went.. she was given rules and pretty much follows them. I think the biggest issue with children on the internet is the lack of good home based morality. If you teach you children well and maintain an open line of communications with them then there is no problem. The biggest problem with kids on the Net is parents looking for a scapegoat do to their failure as a parent. Just my thoughts but what do I know I Just have two very well adjusted children ages 25 and 16

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    The fear state of mind

    

    MarSOnEarth, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 5:06pm

    
    

    Mike, even you seem to be giving in to it subconsciously. Criminal acts are a relatively small portion of all human activities; yet, you write, "so that when it inevitably does come up" as opposed to using the more appropriate word, 'possibly'

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    Cause for fear

    

    nb, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 5:20pm

    
    

    You can see the same sort of thinking with regards to guns kept in households. The media pundits bemoan guns "left in the dresser" and how children kill each other playing with them. However 50 years and beyond in the past not many children killed each other playing with guns. What has changed? Guns are not a part of society that is explained and understood by children. There used to be target clubs in almost all highschools where gun handling was taught and followed for anyone interested until the late 70s.
    
    Now guns are explained in our society by tv and movies as awesome abstractions which give power and only kill badguys in multitude and add momentary winces from anyone else. That a media that explains/frames such a simple tool so poorly can be little expected to do any better with a more complex subject.
    
    Luckily parents who take the mystique and fun out of a gun by teaching it's uses and make it a tool can do the same with the wilds of the web. Just the same as any child should have a thoughtful parental conversation about sex and guns the net and probably pornography is necessary given our societies direction is in order for any youngster.

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    Re: The fear state of mind

    

    silentsteel (profile), Mar 10th, 2008 @ 5:44pm

    
    

    Actually, I did not read that as criminal at all. I was under the impression that Mike was referring to anything a parent might find distateful. Whether I, or you, or society in general, agrees is beside the point. A parent's job is to raise their child(ren). Most parents would prefer that their child know how to handle something like 2 girls, 1 cup responsibly. I myself have not chosen to look at it. I am sure after either of my children stumbled on it they would learn to keep an eye out for things like that. Or I can so them as best I know how as a technologically adept person how to navigate the internet based on the individual maturity level of the child.

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    Re: Cause for fear

    

    Al, Mar 10th, 2008 @ 9:39pm

    
    

    Finally someone else that remembers a sane period in life. I learned to shoot black powder rifles in a club when I was 8 and was taking lessons on marksmanship w/ 22 rifles in a basement firing range at a High School in Wyandotte, MI by the time I was 9 years old. I am not sorry to report that a few rabbits were killed in later years as a result of this training... they were tasty!

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    Re: My Kid

    

    Parenting, Mar 11th, 2008 @ 6:10am

    
    

    Here here. Set rules and boundaries, establish rewards for compliance, consequences for non-compliance, and monitor your child's activities both online and off. I don't fear my children's use of the internet because we have established what is considered proper on-line behavior for them and anyone or thing they come into contact with in cyberspace. I monitor their activity and talk with them about what they are doing.
    
    Does it work? You bet it does. A few months ago one of my children told me someone tried to get their name and contact information while they were in a chat area on AnimalPlanet. Not only did my child capture a log and tell me, but he also reported it to AnimalPlanet.
    
    No 'expert' needed.

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    yeah, tell people not to do something...

    

    eufreka, Mar 11th, 2008 @ 3:06pm

    
    

    Yep, tell a child not to do something, and magically, they won't do it! (After all, it works soooo well with adults...)

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    Re: yeah, tell people not to do something...

    

    Mike (profile), Mar 11th, 2008 @ 6:02pm

    
    

    Yep, tell a child not to do something, and magically, they won't do it! (After all, it works soooo well with adults...)
    
    It's not about telling them "not" to do something. It's about letting them know that the internet isn't an entirely safe place and what to do if they come across material that's obviously not intended for kids.
    
    The only ones saying the answer is banning kids from doing something are these so called "experts."

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    Kim, Mar 27th, 2008 @ 7:35am

    
    

    I agree that making kids 'surf'smart is the best method to help them. 'Spying' on them will only not help to build up trust and should only be used where there is serious concern.
    I am concerned about these websites e.g. msn, bebo, stardoll etc etc and would like to suggest the use of an 'emergency button' link to a child support website with an online advisory service. The 'emergency button' could be given a standard symbol or be incorporated in internet explorer or another browser as a standard button.
    The service should be provided by a government backed child support agency though - to ensure that it is not misused.
    
    Regards
    Kim

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    Brian_D, Apr 11th, 2008 @ 7:59am

    
    

    Any parent who has use the internet for more than a few hours should realize that the internet has some negative content JUST LIKE TV.
    
    Good parents monitor their kids viewing habits whether it's a tv screen or a computer screen. Bad parents just let their kids run wild them blame youtube if their kids ends up screwed up.

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    student, Nov 26th, 2008 @ 4:42am

    
    

    GOOD POINT!!!

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    Re: Re:by Brian

    

    Anonymous Coward, Nov 26th, 2008 @ 4:44am

    
    

    I mean:
    
    Any parent who has use the internet for more than a few hours should realize that the internet has some negative content JUST LIKE TV.
    
    Good parents monitor their kids viewing habits whether it's a tv screen or a computer screen. Bad parents just let their kids run wild them blame youtube if their kids ends up screwed up.

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