Girlfriends Against Video Games

from the missing-an-opportunity dept

A few years back a single friend of mine was talking about buying a Playstation, explaining that it was a decent substitute for a girlfriend in terms of both time and money commitment. He was joking, but soon after that Sony actually started a brief advertising campaign that suggested women buy their boyfriends a Playstation to keep them out of trouble -- making sure they were home playing video games rather than out. Perhaps the company should reintroduce that campaign, as Joystiq reports that a group of upset girlfriends at Kansas State University has started the group "Girlfriends Against Video Games" as a support group for women whose boyfriends spend way too much time gaming. Of course, there are some who might note that if the the guys are spending more time with video games than their girlfriends, then that relationship has other problems to deal with. Update: It's beginning to sound like this whole thing was just a big stunt to get some folks on MTV. Oh well.


Reader Comments (rss)

(Flattened / Threaded)

  1.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 12:43am

    No Subject Given

    Girls upset about not getting enough attention? Wow... that's shocking!

    It does seem that when boys are bored, they play video games or seek out forms of entertainment... but when girls are bored, they look for something to complain about.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  2.  
    identicon
    yeah right, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 2:09am

    Re: No Subject Given

    here here!!! I agree.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  3.  
    identicon
    Anonymous coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 2:39am

    Re: No Subject Given

    I'm a girl, and i agree too. Everyone should find a way to entertain themselves instead of complaining. If you pay more attention to games than your significant other, the problem is in the relationship, not in your PSP.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  4.  
    identicon
    Spunky, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 4:24am

    Re: No Subject Given

    When girls get bored they are more likely to find "somone" else to keep them entertained, that is of course in conjunction with the complaining ;-)

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  5.  
    identicon
    MindTrigger, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 8:53am

    Re: No Subject Given

    It doesn't change when you are married. I have a "gaming night" at home which is currently Tuesday. My wife has her crap she likes to do during the week, and I don't mess with her, so I took Tuesdays. I also game at night on weekends after she goes to bed unless we have other plans. I created this plan in order to keep myself out of divorce. The fact is, when we have down time at home, I'd rather be doing ANYTHING other than watching TV.

    I used to game a lot more, that's for sure. The difficulty is this; She is perfectly happy to come home from work, and watch TV from 5:30pm to 10pm or so when she goes to bed. She doesn't understand that I cannot watch more than an hour or two of TV before I want to slit my own wrists. I'd much rather be surfing the net or gaming if I'm not out doing the other things I enjoy. Thank god for wireless lan and the old laptop. A least then I can sit there and read while she's lost in TV land. Even that is barely tolerable for her. She really would prefer that I sit there and vegitate with her, whether we are talking or not.

    She refers to my computer activities as "my game". Despite the fact that I have cut my gaming down to an absolute minimum, she says all I do is "play my game". I'm blown away by her complete lack of understanding about why I would rather be gaming than waching the tube.

    There is the other extreme though. There are guys out there that try to manage a relationship/wife, while gaming nearly every spare minute they have. Good luck with that. My advice to those people is to just get out of the relationship, and game until you are sick of it. Worry about getting a girfriend or wife later when you have the ability to control you habbits better.

    I think my gaming night, combined with the wireless laptop has been a good middle ground for me. I love gaming online and have been hardcore about it for 10 years now. I don't plan to stop gaming ever. My father is 57 years old, and he's still gaming. Just have to balance my time with the little woman unless I want to be married to a bottle of Jergan's Lotion.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  6.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 10:45am

    Re: No Subject Given

    Good thing you don't plan on stopping gaming, because with a wife that vegetates in front of a TV for 4-5 hours a night (and is upset that you don't want to do the same), you're not likely to get any entertainmant or intellectual stimulation from that quarter. I have a similar married friend (i.e. poor bastard) whose wife cannot tolerate him playing any online games, but if he sits blankly in front of a TV for 4 hours with her, that's OK. But, then again, I guess people who are that bored with their own lives want someone to be bored with them. Misery loves company...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  7.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 10:51am

    Re: No Subject Given

    according to the last two replies...

    Is this what I have to look forward to after getting married? If so, count me out!!! Casual relationships make my gaming life so much better. I should never have to ask permission to play videogames - especially if the alternative is sit blankly at a television screen viewing reruns of HGTV, HSN/SHOP, OXYGEN, LIFETIME, E! or even the SOAP network.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  8.  
    identicon
    Mark, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 10:57am

    I'm one of the lucky ones

    I actually managed to find an attractive girl who games more than I do. Shes as computer savvy as me if not moreso. Ive been gaming since early childhood beginning with atari. My younger brother has also been gaming since nintendo, and my girlfriend has still played more games than my brother and I combined in a lifetime. Hell, she told me she usedto sit in front of the tv as a kid and watched her grandma play the original "Legend of Zelda". Im not making this stuff up, I was blown away. So keep the faith guys, the gaming girls ARE out there, theyre just very hard to find; let alone be attractive..

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  9.  
    identicon
    I luv boobs, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 11:16am

    Re: I'm one of the lucky ones

    weeeeeee!!! boobies

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  10.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 11:23am

    Re: No Subject Given

    No, just make sure you marry someone with hobbies and interests of their own.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  11.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 11:56am

    Re: No Subject Given

    hobbies of their own? According to women, men should be mind readers. now you want us to be future-seers and know if that woman is going to change from being attractive with no children, to being fat and fugly with plenty of children (because women have the final choice of IF they want to keep the babies, not men) while she now chooses to eat bonbons and watch cable television while telling us what to do - or in this case, telling us what not to do; as in not to play video games, to get away from their nagging & fugly-ness.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  12.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 12:08pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    Future-seeing? Very easy. Just look at her mother. That is pretty much what you will end up with in 25 years. And, finding out if a woman has any life outside of the relationship should be pretty easy to determine...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  13.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 12:32pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    Why would a girl even want to be with a guy if she cannot stand him enjoying one of his favourite pastimes? I mean heck, if a man doesn't want a woman who watches game shows, soap operas and the lifetime network all day - why would a woman want to be with a guy who enjoys playing video games for great deal of time?

    I think the problem is that [in this article] these women have settled for only what they can obtain. These women want a boy that they can mold and create into something else from what they originally found them at. These women fit into the same category as, "I don't care what this man likes and dislikes. I will change him into the kind of man I want."

    I'll tell you for darn sure though, If a woman wants to change me and I don't want to be changed... I will be out of that relationship in a heart-beat (I would DTB!). Any man who lets himself be controlled by another person (woman or not), has issues he needs to solve on his own... before getting himself involved with another human being.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  14.  
    identicon
    Michael, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 1:21pm

    No Subject Given

    An interesting subject. I too have a girlfriend who can watch TV from sunrise to sunset, and would prefer I do the same. Fortunately, she understands that my head would implode if I tried, and while she can't stand my relationship with my computer, she can't in good concience ask me to wither away with her in front of that destroyer of minds.

    I believe that any woman who is fed up with her man's gaming habits ask herself what she can offer him instead. If she only wants his undivided attention, there's a problem. However, if you're offering something even remotely stimulating, such as a board game, a night out to dinner, a day on the slopes, whatever, and he's still ignoring you, there is a definite problem, and it's definitely HIS problem.

    Don't get me wrong... A quiet evening of "us time" is okay, as long as a) "us time" isn't "all the time", and b) you at least try to make it interesting... rent a movie and prepare a nice dinner together.

    "Hold me while I watch TV" is never acceptable, no matter how many romantic moments you've seen in movies. If you can't think of anything interesting for the both of you to do, then let the guy go play games while you watch television, and just be comfortable that you're both together and you're both keeping yourselves occupied in your own ways.

    But guys, don't over do it. Every now and then, on your way to the bathroom or to get a drink, give her a kiss and engage in conversation. You're both doing your own thing, but you're not ignoring one another completely....

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  15.  
    identicon
    MindTrigger, Nov 28th, 2005 @ 2:53pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    lol... She doesn't vegitate in front of the TV every single night. I'm talking about the nights she DOES decide to sit and watch lots of TV, usually a couple nights a week. Most of the time, we have plans in the evenings. As hard as she works, and considering the rather large sum of money she makes, I am willing to accept her need to vegitate sometimes. Doesn't mean I want to.

    The point was, when she has nothing better to do, TV is fine with her. It's NOT with me, I prefer to play BF2 and frag all the mindless fodder. It causes a problem between us because she thinks I should be perfectly content sitting next to her on the sofa. Yeah, she can be selfish, but I've been married to her for over 11 years now (I'm only 34 years old). I accepted that flaw a loooong time ago. I just wish there was some magic statement I could make that would help her understand.

    As for what you have to "look forward to" when you get married.... I gave you a tiny friggin snapshot of my life as it pertains to my gaming habbit. Try not to hurt yourself thinking about it too much. In the end, she just wants me to hang out with her as much as possible. Luckily we go out and do things quite a bit, so I don't feel to bad about denying her sometimes.

    I have some hardcore gamer friends that practically live in the games. I've been there, I understand the feeling/need/draw, but I had to make a choice. Get a divorce and game my arse off (alone), or keep my gaming where it should be, as a hobby, not a religion. As I said, I seem to have struck a balance where I still get a good chunk of gaming in each week, and my woman is not giving me a hard time.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  16.  
    identicon
    Donald Traill, Dec 5th, 2005 @ 11:18am

    Get a Dog instead

    A while ago I did some "serious thinkin'" 'bout what I want from a relationship. Companionship, affection, unconditional acceptance- So I got a dog. 60 percent of the benefits, 10 percent of the hassle if you ask me. Her name is Honey- matches her color, temperment and I can always walk in the door sayin' "Hi Honey, I'm home!"

    If you ask me now, it's less hassles. BUT... Her breath stank, she stole the covers, she even crashed my car once. If the cop car she did it in front of had had a video unit, I would have laughed about it sooner with $10,000 or more in my pocket.

    I am not saying never, but all the women I have ever met that WERE worth the hassle let me know. For now, I have Honey- AND I can cook!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  17.  
    identicon
    Reen, Dec 8th, 2005 @ 10:50pm

    PS2 widows

    Cool your heels dude. All women aren't like that. I respect my boyfriend's wishes and I encourage him to play. #1, he's at home with me, when he could be out drinkin', cheatin', whatever... #2, other than the electric bill and the price of the game, it's FREE. Right this minute he's playing NBA Live '06 online and I am sitting right next to him on my PC. We couldn't be more content. We haven't said a word to each other in 3 hrs but who cares. When I want his attention I give him some oral support and it's all good.
    Just make sure before you settle down that your mate knows 'whatcha see is whatcha get'. My guy's been a gamer for as long as I've known him and I love him just the way he is.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  18.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Dec 13th, 2005 @ 8:23am

    Re: No Subject Given

    I'll think of you tonight when my wife and I are playing Counter Strike together. I just introduced her to Unreal Tournament and she loves it. I am in Nirvana.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  19.  
    identicon
    Christina, Dec 14th, 2005 @ 8:48pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    You wife doesn't want you to sit and 'vegitate' with her, she wants you to romance her, and touch her, and pay attention to her. not play games. my boyfriend spends 12 freaking hours a day on his freaking playstation. And I get ZERO of his attention, well excpet when I ask how his day has been, and he thinks it's a joke, and says "comehere honey and sit here" just so I stop bugging him. I just want attention, I can't remember the last time we sat and watched a movie and had a lovey night, I like sex, and I would have sex everyday if his lazy ass would take a hint. I love gaming, but I'm starting to hate it. and it's not fair that the stupid playstation gets more attention then I do.

    So don't think your wife is just beinf annoying, she wants you to take a freaking hint.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  20.  
    identicon
    jessica, Jan 9th, 2006 @ 8:50am

    Re: No Subject Given

    i so toally agree but my boyfriend just spends to much time and money on a game he'd beat and move on to a more expensive one in a week.which leave less time and attention from me.i don't know how much longer i can stand this.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  21.  
    identicon
    molly, Jan 26th, 2006 @ 3:19pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    My boyfriend plays MMORPGs the entire time he is awake when he is not in class. I appreciate that he is having fun, but he doesn't care about anything else, and that makes a once sexy man to me a gross video game slob. He wants to have sex during the downtime in the game. IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER. He says I bitch at him too much, but the freaking game is all there is to talk about. At least he's not an alcoholic, I know, but there are plenty of men who are NEITHER.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  22.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Jan 27th, 2006 @ 6:06pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    see if my boyfriend would make a gaming night like you did things would be great but he never visits me i always come to his house to visit or i should say, do what he wants because i cant tear him away from the computer, when i dont come over he gets mad at me but ive strated hated it. i hate those whining complaining girls as much as the next person but i havnt gone to the movies in months he doesnt like going out but when we stay in there is nothing to do but watch him play his game. i try to get into it but its not my thing. we just turned 21 and should be enjoying life and each other (weve been dating for 4 years) but instead i see myself alone with him one room away.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  23.  
    identicon
    sigh, Feb 12th, 2006 @ 6:43pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    My boyfriend is obsessed with starcraft. I don't mind him playing every once in awhile for a couple of hours... But he plays constantly, when he's not playing, he's updating his website devoted to starcraft, when he's not doing that, he's chatting to other idiots about starcrafts, when he's not doing that he's reading forums about starcraft.....

    When I wake up, he's playing, when I go to sleep, he's playing....

    I tried to talk to him about it, but he gets pissed and says "why are you trying to control me? why cant I do what I want?"

    I thought a relationship involved making a few sacrifices if you really cared about the other person. I don't want to control him but I would like to at least go out...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  24.  
    identicon
    sexest gamer, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:17pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    ok ok girl gamers bug me to hell they seem to cream me online and leran the game faster then me! it bugs me to hell!they are f***** fast lerners!gaming is a male only relm girl gamers have upset the balence i just start to scream when some girl beats me at a game im great at and have been playing for months!it drives me mad and im a good gamer!! i hate women gamer!! they shuld stay in front of the tv!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  25.  
    identicon
    sexest gamer, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:20pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    sorry for the bad grammer in that

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  26.  
    identicon
    sexest gamer, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:24pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    stupid girl gamers they still are girls my gf got mad at me for makeing her lose with a gameshark on halo 2 iv played the game for months and she played 2 weeks and got better then me!! why did she get so mad i have my pride

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  27.  
    identicon
    fu girl, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:27pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    let him play ps2 its probly more fun theb going out wiht you

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  28.  
    identicon
    grrr, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:28pm

    Re: PS2 widows

    i hate girls er women dont trust any body

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  29.  
    identicon
    sexest gamer, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:48pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    i know some dumd women will complain well i dont are when girls impead on a male chonra it is just not right girls shuld stick to the malls and stupid nail parlers death to all girl gamers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!evory time i get creamed at my "best game" some dumd *** girl creams me it wasent ment to be f girl gamers may they all diie!!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  30.  
    identicon
    he he he, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:50pm

    Re: PS2 widows

    wow thats good cexist gamer i agree i made my gf think shes a horrible gamer with code braker and now shes heart broken with games and basicly i cream her...she never found out now she knows her place

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  31.  
    identicon
    tbw, Feb 14th, 2006 @ 4:53pm

    Re: PS2 widows

    but girls who know there place and let boys win and purpasly know nothing bout tecmogly and are air heads ....i just saw on g4...some dame girl who ..has higher lvs...4 chars..likes starwars..reads game mags and pc mags!!!...f her for invading the gamer relm!!!!leave it to the boys!!!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  32.  
    identicon
    molly, Feb 15th, 2006 @ 12:53pm

    No Subject Given

    wow. sexist manipulative insecure videogame dorks? I am shocked you even HAVE girlfriends.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  33.  
    identicon
    sexest gamert, Feb 15th, 2006 @ 1:52pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    shut up stupid i have alot of freinds and a gf who knows her place you jerk ass

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  34.  
    identicon
    hk gun, Feb 15th, 2006 @ 1:54pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    im secrure and am a game programmer with many frends and have had many girl frends you jerk ass and im also a very cexest gamer so what do you say about that?

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  35.  
    identicon
    meg, Feb 16th, 2006 @ 8:06am

    gaming too much

    i've been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now and at first it wasn't all that bad. i know he gamed and i didn't mind it, but then it started to get worse. we used to do so much together and go to all these places and just be together. now he's became this over protective control freak who says i need to come down to his house everyday, otherwise i'll most likely get accused of not wanting to spend to spent time with him.
    whenever i do go down, i usually stay for like 7 hours and i get 1 maybe 2 hours with him alone. the rest he is playing his game (call of duty). i don't really know what to do. it gets really freakin boring laying there on his bed since he has no chair in his room. i watch tv way too much and it's always repeats anyway so i usually fall asleep. i've picked up hobbies to do while sitting there instead, but it still leads to utter boredom. quite frankly, i'm fed up with only getting so little of his time. i don't go down to say hi and fall asleep. i can do that at my own house. i go down to spend tiee with him, but he shows more emotion and dedication to that computer game and his online gaming friends than he does to me or this relationship. his attitude just goes haywire if his team sucks, he's always switching teams and when they lose he like gets all angry and takes it out on me.
    oh not to mention, i get called 'lazy' by him too cause i don't do anything besides sleep. what does he expect having to lay in a bed for so long, i'm bound to just sleep even if i'm not tired. truth is, i suggest so much to do but i have to schedule it around his gaming and oh yeah, that means in 2 minute intervals with hours between alone while he plays. he's said we'd start doing stuff and then bails out and says," oh i have a match or scrim." i don't know what to do anymore.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  36.  
    identicon
    meg, Feb 16th, 2006 @ 8:11am

    too much?

    i've been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now and at first it wasn't all that bad. i know he gamed and i didn't mind it, but then it started to get worse. we used to do so much together and go to all these places and just be together. now he's became this over protective control freak who says i need to come down to his house everyday, otherwise i'll most likely get accused of not wanting to spend to spent time with him.
    whenever i do go down, i usually stay for like 7 hours and i get 1 maybe 2 hours with him alone. the rest he is playing his game (call of duty). i don't really know what to do. it gets really freakin boring laying there on his bed since he has no chair in his room. i watch tv way too much and it's always repeats anyway so i usually fall asleep. i've picked up hobbies to do while sitting there instead, but it still leads to utter boredom. quite frankly, i'm fed up with only getting so little of his time. i don't go down to say hi and fall asleep. i can do that at my own house. i go down to spend time with him, but he shows more emotion and dedication to that computer game and his online gaming friends than he does to me or this relationship. his attitude just goes haywire if his team sucks, he's always switching teams and when they lose he like gets all angry and takes it out on me.
    i have things i want to do with my life and i want him to be there, but his dream is to game for money, even though he spends about 90% more money then he does in winning any tournaments. but to him my life should be waiting for him and being by his side, supporting his every move.
    oh not to mention, i get called 'lazy' by him too cause i don't do anything besides sleep. what does he expect having to lay in a bed for so long, i'm bound to just sleep even if i'm not tired. truth is, i suggest so much to do but i have to schedule it around his gaming and oh yeah, that means in 2 minute intervals with hours between alone while he plays. he's said we'd start doing stuff and then bails out and says, "oh i have a match or scrim."

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  37.  
    identicon
    cexest gamer, Feb 16th, 2006 @ 4:45pm

    Re: too much?

    wont you stupid felames under stand/ video games provide more fun then you do infact havent you read how most gamerz are by the posts? you fucking idoutits true just leave the house why tear away from somthing he likes and has always done for fun and sudently stop becase you of you? so dump him he will get over it he has call of duty its better then you = p

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  38.  
    identicon
    cexest gamer, Feb 19th, 2006 @ 6:18pm

    Re: too much?

    is anyone gonna posta ny thing else? oo well was fun and girl are air heads as a close

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  39.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Feb 20th, 2006 @ 8:35pm

    Re: too much?

    some one post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  40.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Feb 20th, 2006 @ 8:39pm

    Re: too much?

    post some one keep the cexisom alive!!!!!!!!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  41.  
    identicon
    lemmings, Feb 20th, 2006 @ 8:43pm

    Re: too much?

    um ok your a jerk

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  42.  
    identicon
    molly, Feb 20th, 2006 @ 8:50pm

    Re: too much?

    iv changed my mind i will sucome to my bf and do evory thing he says and be infeirer as i shuld be and acknolage and am a weaker life form.to all the other girls who read this acuoage your a weaker life form males are much better

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  43.  
    identicon
    molly, Feb 20th, 2006 @ 8:51pm

    Re: No Subject Given

    i have changed my mind as the message reads above

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  44.  
    identicon
    ha ha, Feb 21st, 2006 @ 11:52am

    Re: No Subject Given

    good you finnaly know your place

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  45.  
    identicon
    Gerri, Mar 12th, 2006 @ 10:05pm

    Re: Re: No Subject Given

    Being a women who deals with a man that plays games all the time...I can understand where you would want to set separate times for your stuff and her stuff-I think that setting a time to do things is a great idea-whether it be gaming, or reading stuff on the computer, surfing the net, etc, there needs to be time to do something that you enjoy. The problem [I think] comes when men try to get every waking second in with their games and still balance a relationship-to tell you the truth, that is what my fiance does and I don't think we are going to last long like that.
    I can see where she likes to watch t.v. all night-I do the same thing. The reason I do it is because I work all day and just want to sit and not have to think or interact with what I am doing. However, I can see where anyone would get sick of so much t.v.-what I have found that works is doing chores and watching t.v., that way, it's broken up and not so borring.
    I hope things continue to go well with you-I know how rough it is to be an individual in a relationship-you have a great idea and I think that if I can implement it, our relationship will work a little better.

    On an off note-I HATE games now...my fiance plays them so much that he ruins the surprise of every game that I had any sort of interest in...now I do web development to spend my time.

    I think that if you explained to her that you can't watch t.v. all day and suggest something else you can do-a walk in the park, a game of tennis/badmitten, a movie, surfing, or anything else that you might like to do together-providing an alternative helps-I have found that when I want my fiance to get off of his games, I find something else to do, and most of the time it works.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  46.  
    identicon
    Kill men, Mar 12th, 2006 @ 10:07pm

    Re: Re: too much?

    sexest gamer-you obviously have never been laid. If you had, then you would know that we can be more fun than a stupid controller.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  47.  
    identicon
    Sarah M, Mar 15th, 2006 @ 3:16pm

    sexest gamer..... i agree with kills, you have got a long life of video games ahead of you with rediculous talk like that. Not to mention.... i think the video games are starting to mess with your pathetic little brain because ya dont seem too intelegent. Your looking at a computer screen and trying to start an argument, that says a lot for you honey.... it really does. Keep waisting your life playing video games, it is probably better that the world doesn't meet you anyhow....

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  48.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  49.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  50.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  51.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  52.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  53.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  54.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  55.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  56.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  57.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  58.  
    identicon
    mad cexest gamer, Mar 23rd, 2006 @ 3:01pm

    shut up

    eh obviously your all stupid idouts some pepale do like video games and dont like real life so what! you have your sad lives and ill have mine

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  59.  
    identicon
    meg, Apr 14th, 2006 @ 1:24pm

    My BF plays the MMORPG game world of warcraft from the moment when he wakes up till about 5 am. (now he doesnt even wake up until dusk bc he is up playing so late.) he does this everyday that he does not have to work. this is NOT normal for a 25 yr old man.
    I do not mind that he plays. he does make time for "just us", but there are many occasions where i am sitting staring at the back of his head while he is off killing hoard in Alteric Valley. HE tells me the more time that he plays when i am over the sooner he will be done. (he is PVPing right now. he wants to make it up to rank 12 out of 14, and then he will be done.)
    I know that there are many men out there that can find a balance, but my BF can not. Mabye it's all the weed he smokes.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  60.  
    identicon
    Lis, Apr 22nd, 2006 @ 3:55pm

    My Gamer and I have been together 4 yrs- great so what? Well moved in together just over a year now and he has slowly and more intensely become a gaming 'addict'- maybe too stong a word but in comparison to comments of other gaming widows, an understatement. Yes annoys me, yes I nag, yes he continues to play regardless, yes I think I'm going crazy sometimes as i take his game playing personaly as a way of him escaping into a world of bs2 to get away from me. But its not- he just enjoys playing his online game, and I am going to accept that for now. Im glad i'm not the only one out there who feels the same. Hes a great guy and I have things to entertain myself with when hes doing it. But when weeks go by and I cant honestly remember any verbal communication other than" how was work today" and "goodnight darling- love you" he starts to p#ss me off and makes me wonder why i bother to love him as much as i do.
    And cexist gamer freak- get lost- go play on your little boy game (I dont know how you find time to annoy everyone on here when you have your precious gaming to do)- and leave us to moan in peace.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  61.  
    identicon
    cexest gamer, Apr 28th, 2006 @ 7:03pm

    shut all the hell up you stupid women should be put in jail and forced to work like in the old days when you were like servants!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  62.  
    identicon
    maria, Apr 30th, 2006 @ 5:34pm

    Hardcore gamers shouldn't be in relationships. If guys would pay attention to women as much as they did their mmorpgs, they could probably get any girl they wanted.
    I don't oppose of games, because i too play mmorpgs. I don't however spend 12 hours at a time on it.. i have other hobbies. My boyfriend used to have many hobbies, he played guitar, he made hemp jewerly, art, reading... and much more.. now he claims that his game (martial heroes) is his only hobby. I have to say, it's quite a turn off. I fell in love with an artistic, creative young man.. ya know what i mean? And now he does none of those things.
    All i'm saying... game addiction is just as worse as drug addiction. He has no friends, a nagging girlfriend (if that's what you want to call it), he's gaining weight, and he's often depressed... what's the difference...and what's so acceptable about that?

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  63.  
    identicon
    cexest gamer, May 2nd, 2006 @ 4:06pm

    Re:

    thank you! thank you! you finnlay get a point no gfs for hard core gamers! ( and there are girls who are just as hard core as boys who make perfect macthes and are gamers also!) thank you you get a point!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  64.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, May 7th, 2006 @ 12:28pm

    Re: Re: No Subject Given

    I like how you fail to mention that before the vegitating and "bon bon" eating that she probubly asked the back of your head hundreds of times to go and do something with her...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  65.  
    identicon
    cexest gamer, Jun 3rd, 2006 @ 4:52pm

    shut up im not a "bom" "bom" eater and she nveer nagged i made her do whjat i say now heh he h.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  66.  
    identicon
    cindy, Aug 21st, 2006 @ 6:49pm

    Re: Re: No Subject Given

    ok im married to a Marine a wonderfull man but fuck xbox 360 it cost 400.00 +60.00 for every game pluss 40 for a controller pluss 60.00 for insurance pluse what ever else stuppid thing they envented for that stupid thing i hate it

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  67.  
    identicon
    Anonymous Coward, Sep 10th, 2006 @ 5:50am

    Support group

    Not to take sides either way,but to the ladies out their who have become as I like to call them SOCOM widowes.I would invite you to join the SOTG web site and check out WAS a support group from women.It's just a forum to meet other people in the same situation to chat and share ideas.I think if we can get more members it can be a positive support group.check it out

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  68.  
    identicon
    Jesus, Sep 18th, 2006 @ 11:03am

    wtf?

    Gamers should hav ther time, only games can help us cope with our lives, i like to shoot people on halo2, id rather kill someone on a game than kill my girlfriend, its all we hav, if you dont let us, well we always hav pot

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  69.  
    identicon
    alisha, Jan 20th, 2007 @ 6:45am

    boyfriend

    well, for me; i would like to play games and my boyfriend tries to teach me but i dont really get into them...i play sports and do all kinds of outside stuff...he loves to play games...and you know i totally understand, well my parents told me we may be mving and it seems ever since then, that unless we are in person...hes always on his games...instead of talking on msm messenger or the phone [gotta wait till after nine cuz our cells have headsets...] i understand why he would play a game withhis friends then talk to me, i usually just talk about randm stuff but thats not how it always was...is it his way of dealing with me moving or shutting me out? we've been together for 5 months and ehrn we are in person together he deffinately shows he loves me, with kisses on the forhead and cute stuff like that just as much as regular kisses an sweet words...hes a really good boyfriend i just dont know what to think about his increased gaming , i want to be more understanding so that he can play andi can have a clear-er mind you know...

    what do you think, any advice

    [if you cant say something in a respectful way, then please dont, i feel dum enough as it is in a forum asking about my boyfriend lol]

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  70.  
    identicon
    CrazyBeautiful, Feb 16th, 2007 @ 4:36pm

    WOW

    Wow.
    I did not know that this many girls go through the same thing i do, My fiance is ridiculus wiht his dumb world of warcraft. i love games my self, but im starting to hate them, i am not nagging because i have nothing to do myself so i keep buggin him, its not that this is what he does, wakes up 30 minutes before he has to go to work to get ready, because the night before he stayed up all night to play his game, so than he goes to work, gone for like 6 hrs, comes home, walks striaght to the computer, turns his game on, asks me for food, plays all night again, and thats all it is, just keeps doin it every single day.. I just want to spend some time with him but he is too obsessed with that game, for example ill go hey go get us food, oh hold on im in the middle of someting, 2 hrs later are u gonna go get us food, no im in the middle of something, one sec. that is freaking ridiculous, i hope that all guys out there that are like that will end up ALONE.. because that is bullshit not to show any attention to someone that loves and cares about them so much , that they just put up with all this shit.. GIrls that are getting into a relationship with guys like this better get out of it asap, because their life will just get worse and worse, and the GUY will just start spending less and less time with you.. So good luck with everything, i dont think im gonna put up with this that much longer.. i think 4 years is enough.. ha ha and he has two months to change.. if he dosnt limit him self than im gonee.. peaceee im gonna find someone that will give me some attention..
    Haa well at least now i know im not the only one out there... its pretty sad how many guys are like that...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  71.  
    identicon
    Sin, Mar 8th, 2007 @ 3:46pm

    Stupid pigs

    Men are like animals, try to take their food away and they growl. you must show them THEIR place, in the dog house waiting for your commands. They seem to think women give a shit about their hobbies and wish to take them away...pathetic weak animals! ahahah Its time to force them out of their fictious reality and destroy their socalled freedom, sexist men are pigs and those who submit are deccent dogs. Learn to play their game, defeat them and dominate. let them cry all they want, who cares, probably fags. my bf knows his place and i am kind to him but as soon as he growls he's punished, stupid vicious dogs. dont be with the disobediant type, all men do is insult, degrade and cause war. discard the bad dogs and control the ones with potential. aw guess what you sexist pigs? that didn't feel good did it? guess equality IS best or else it makes some feel sick! learn to be deccent or nobody will ever love you...desobediant animals! p.s. i am not sexist, i was trying to cause controversy...dont bother replying...i came to visit the site and i wont be returning...i have a life and men to dominate! ciao!

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  72.  
    identicon
    Ginny, Apr 22nd, 2007 @ 6:16pm

    Hello all! I am a student and family member of a former video game addict. I have taken a great interest in this area and am working to find advanced treatment methods for video game addiction. Please help me in my efforts by taking my survey.

    This study is sponsored by The Center for Survey Research at an anonymous private university in Southern California. The results will be used to help understand how video game addiction affects the lives and family members of those who are inflicted with this illness. In addition, this vital information will help further the understanding and pattern of depression in video game addicts, determining weather it is a beneficial angle of treatment.

    All your answers will be kept completely anonymous and confidential. The questionnaire take about 12 minutes. Your participation is voluntary. If you have questions at any time about the survey or the procedures, you may contact Ginny at Ginn182@yahoo.com.

    I would like to thank you in advance for your participation. Video game addiction is a devastatingly real challenge for thousands, both for families and addicts themselves, and with your help we may one day begin to better treat this disorder effectively.



    Click Here to take the survey
    This survey is safe and SPAM FREE

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  73.  
    identicon
    Rhiana, Aug 1st, 2007 @ 12:12pm

    Looking for help...

    I really think my boyfriend is addicted to video games. First of all, he has lost at least three jobs in the past 7 months because he stays up until 7am playing games and sleeps during the day. He is supposed to be looking for a job right now but sleeps all day long so he never even has a chance to even think about it. I'm worried because he's in his own apartment and has no money. I cant afford to pay for his food and all the other things he needs anymore. And where is he going to go when he gets kicked out. It's bad. He'll tell me he's tired and has to take me home at midnight so he can go to sleep, then stays up all night playing games. He's been lying about looking for jobs. He plays final fantasy at night then when he does wake up during the day he gets online and plays guild wars or soldier of fortune. When we talk lately it's all about what's happening in his games. He also has only one real live friend. All the other people he is "friends" with are from Europe and Australia and what not. People he's never met... I'm scared for him and it's hurting me. We had plans today, and when I called him at 1:30, he was still asleep. He told me that he wanted to sleep more because he didn't go to bed until 7:30 this morning. He cancelled on me again. I hate it when he does this to me. That's why I'm on here - looking for help. I understand that he needs his space to do what he enjoys doing, and I'm totally okay with that, but I think that over 10 hours a day is getting excessive. Please someone, give me some advice. I want to tell him that I'm worried about him and how much he's hurting me but I don't know what to say or how to say it without attacking him. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO...??? Please help me...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  74.  
    identicon
    Angie, Nov 7th, 2007 @ 5:08am

    I'm a girl and i think the boys do need there space.... Face it ladies some of ya'll is crazy, they need some time off...let boys be boys and get on with your life.... it's better for them to play video games then to cheat on you...

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  75.  
    identicon
    Boozy, Apr 8th, 2008 @ 10:51am

    Re: gaming too much

    Here is the big problem with this... If you nag him for gaming, he will resent you. If you let him go, he will play his life away. Happy medium? What does he like? once or twice a week, set up a plan that he can't say no to, and do all the work so all he has to do is get up and go. He will appreciate the effort. On certain days, leave him be and do things with your friends, it will make the relationship stronger. He will game his little butt off on those days, and feel refreshed from not hearing you complain. On the "date nights," he will be happy that you thought of alternatives, rather than nag him into the ground, and he will probably knock your sox off afterwards.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  76.  
    identicon
    Boozy, Apr 8th, 2008 @ 11:02am

    Re: boyfriend

    2 things - first of all, 5 months is not a long time, so the relationship hasn't fully developed yet. Second, his increased gaming could mean he always was like that but is just more comfortable now, or he simply feels they are more interesting than you. I'm sorry to be blount, but I think its better than sugar-coating. As I've told the previous women on this page, give us something more interesting to do and we will... arrange a night to his favorite place to eat, get a couple of movie tickets and surprise him with a movie he likes. take him out to his favorite bar, and just enjoy time with him. If you focus on how much you hate the games and what they do, then the games have "won." I know it sounds ridiculous, but you have to just stop sitting around and be boring, and do something he will enjoy. use your imagination here..

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  77.  
    identicon
    carly rose, Apr 9th, 2008 @ 5:16am

    perhaps if i started to play wow as well that would be very bonding and better for our relationship... but i'd like to know when i'd find the time... we have been together two years, at first my boyf was sick of wow after playing for years and being involved in too much 'guild politics'. i represented something fresh and new and we would spend lots of time outdoors, walking, drinking, laughing, talking, we would listen to music loads, he'd help me cook....
    my boyfriend is a kind, loving, gentle, warm man, i wouldn't be with him if not. when i met him he was just leaving the last traces of addiction to opiates, after some years of flirtation with heroin he got badly addicted and was living on the streets begging to sustain a £100 a day habit... to his huge credit he had the strength to get himself off the streets and off the heroin, he returned to his mum's, started a methodone course, and started college... he healed himself of methodone and subutex addiction by insisting on ever decreasing doses as his doctor was happy to just keep him on the same dose and write him off. when i met him it was a few months after coming off the last of his subutex. sure he had a huge drink problem.. .which is now much less, tho he depends on drink and is a maintenance alcoholic he doesn't drink huge amounts... spends about £5 a day on alcohol...
    ... wow is what helped him through his detoxes... a much cheaper habit and less toxic... however his addiction to it is profound, and depressing to be around... he is on incapacity benefit for mental health problems and so he is able to spend most of his waking hours playing wow...
    ...we have a beautiful baby daughter now and another baby on the way....this is my gripe, that we live in the country in a beautiful place but he only goes outdoors to go and get his daily alcohol, or for the occasional cigarette... he resents anything that calls him away from wow... i can't say he doesn't help at all at home, he does.. he minds the baby when i'm resting, mainly by keeping an eye on her as he plays wow... he does bits of housework as quickly and sketchily as possible,... mostly after i have got annoyed at him or upset feeling that i can't cope... he cooks every so often, as fast and no frills as possible... considering there are two in this home it ought to be gleaming and lovely instead it is a mess... i feel sad and guilty that i don't have the energy to give my daughter all the attention she needs as well as keep the house up to scratch but in these days of pregnancy i can't... and he turns a blind eye to most of the mess and then says there is nothing to do.. when his mum tells him off he has a go at me.. if i have a go at him i'm the nagging woman bitch... it's all pretty soul destroying at times but if it don't kill you it makes you stronger...
    it is the way he resents any call on his attention, the way he stares inot a monitor for twelve hours a day and then wonders why he feels weak and drained.... it makes me feel sad, he can be such a lovely giving, tender sparkly person but wow seems to destroy these qualities. in the game he is very popular and i have no doubt he displays his best qualities... in reality tho it is a different story...
    i don't think i am a needy person.... i wouldn't mind at all if he worked and just played some evenings.. but he plays all the time he can and these days we rarely see each other. i can say quite honestly that it is destroying our relationship.... he has a lovely daughter and family and he occasionally still tells me how important i am to him, but most of the time he behaves like a moody teenager (he is 31) and as if i am a nagging mum. no other partner i've had has accused me of nagging. but if you ask him to do something once or twice he doesn't do it tho he always says he will. if you end up doing it he always saysk 'you should have reminded me'. but if you keep asking it is classed as nagging. it feels like a no win situation.
    but perhaps the problem is really a deep rooted laziness and the game is just an excuse.
    at the moment i do feel his limited help is better than no help - at least i can take a shower or take out the dog and know the baby is safe with him. likewise a rest. but i do feel we are very far from being a well-functioning him. sometimes i feel i'm just waiting til the kids are big enough for me not to need him. i love him very much but it is already like having an emo teen around, that isn't an example i want the kids to take on board as how it is ok for a grown man to be. i hope he gets his head around this - he goes thru phases of getting the gaming down to a minimum after the chores are done - same with the booze - he was fabulous for a while after our beautiful baby girl was born. guess it is just a process. and maybe wow is great for having helped him off the opiates which of course are far more life-destroying. now we just need to cure the cure and i am doing my (hormonal) best to muster the faith that we can and will do that - together - and it may just make us stronger as individuals and also as a family.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  78.  
    identicon
    Dr.G, Sep 14th, 2008 @ 2:29am

    All of this forum

    To start off I feel I must say something about the post of the WOW addict with a family. I'm sure that everyone who has read that might have come to this conclusion but no one has said it. Your husbands gaming is just the expression of a problem. I'm not insulting you or your family however, your husband is not cured of anything he has simply replaced one addiction to another. Everyone has some level of addiction to something everyone! Look at his actions. He smokes, Drinks, And plays one video game. ***sidenote none of the formentioned activities is bad as long as regulated responsibily*** Games is not the real problem, it is him having an addictive personallity he's addicted to cigs, alcohol, and games, he was addicted to other drugs before all this. He simply replaced one for another. Don't blame video games for his actions its a mental trait that he holds. Its not his fault its the way his body and brain acts.
    To prove this point, I can honestly say I know WoW players and yes some of them are extremely crazy about it but other just play casually and some that were crazy about it quit cold turkey and never looked back. Its all psycholigical.
    To finish this part of my post I want to say a few more things. There are people who are addicted to running, eating healthy, etc because they are addicted to one of many things to name a few. 1) to try to Look like perfection, 2) they love the feeling of feeling like they are superb or even just the burn they get from running. And yes it could just be because they care about their health or want to be perfectly fit. Both situations are possible but you have to rememeber exactly that they are BOTH possible so don't just assume its one or another. There are people who are addicted to millions of other things candy, the rush of doing a 130 mph or skydiving, shooting a gun, I could go on and on. Now to close this part. It is possible to manifest his addictive personality into something more healthy like the formentioned of running or something more creative as to play a guitar well or paint or speak multiple languages. It isn't something that will change overnight and can't be forced it has to be introduced to a person as a challenge they choose to take. They have to feel like they want to do it not you wanting them to do it.

    Now enough about that for now. THIS IS FOR ALL THE WIFES,GIRLFRIENDS, FRIENDS OF GAMERS.
    Gaming has many purposes some not as apparent as others. One is its just fun for some people a lot of fun at that. Or it could be a chance for them to take an alternate reality to where in the game they can fly fighter planes or be the hero cop or save the world, for some gamers it is a not only a alternate reality but a period of time where they can wind down. Now I forgot the exact term but I hope someone here has read the book about this and can relate. There is a book about childeren who are really picky when it comes to what they wear or stuff related to that but with this personality also comes traits like, it is easier for the child to eat dinner if you tell them the morning before what's for dinner because it allows them to adjust to it all day. Some childeren and I believe this could be true with adults need to have the ability to know what is going to happen before it does when it comes to clothes or food. Think about if your husband or BF gets upset if dinner isn't what you said or you spontaniously change plans. Some adults may not handle it well. Even if its his favorite dress shirt is dirty or you got him new shoes. Changes not announced in advance can sometime mess with certain peoples minds. Now I know your thinking what's the point of all this. Stay tuned it will become clear. With all of these traits listed a final trait I will add to this list. In this book and I've even seen this personally, my younger brother is this way and has been ever since I can remember. When he gets home from school he goes into his room for sometimes 1 to 5 hours and watches tv or plays video games alone. After that he has adjusted to being home and is completley fine. The point I'm trying to prove is tv for women is what video games is to men or childerent or even women. Its a time for them to forget the past part of their day and leave anything bad at the click of a button or controller and adjust to the home atomosphere. Now there's a flip side to this some people can walk in the door and keep the baggage inside till later and when the house is asleep pick up a controller or watch some tv.
    Now I'm not trying to be sexest in any way but women do this a lot they come home and collapse on the couch and watch their favorite TV shows. Guys usually do the opposite they fire up their pc,xbox360,or ps3 or whatever it maybe. Women are not better then men. I can not believe women come on here and criticize Video Games. Do not, better yet you should not place blame any where other then on yourself. If from day one you entice him and he entices you or you both challenge each others minds with board games, or workout together or tell each other of your days or even find a 1 hour show where you can both enjoy that tv show. WOMEN you must remember that The HILLS, OR ONE TREE HILL OR THE VMA's is what you may like but it doesn't mean he does. You may love sex in the city or whatever new shows are on but your other half might not. Be considerate of what your other half wants and this does not me you men get whatever you want. Compromise!!!!!

    Now I haven't meant to hurt anyone's feelings or sound like I'm almighty. I'm just speaking from a lot of studying and many many expirences. Not to mention helping others with problems like this. ADDICITION IS ONE THING but do not correlate them with Video games and your relationship.

    I almost forgot. No person should ever try to make you give up your past times because even if you do to make them happy in the end you will be unhappy. No one should be condescending towards another ever. You are made of the very same things as the next person. You just have different structures, and brains. It we didn't we would all be the same! Guys if you wanna game then game! Girls if you wanna watch tv then watch it!!! But this goes for both sexes, never ever force your past times on another and treat them bad if they don't agree with them. Oh and guys I'm married and I play video games. My wife doesn't play but she loves her tv and girls get used to it. Get used to the fact that he doesn't have to be right next to you to show he loves you. Oh and just a hint and men I'm sorry for selling you out. But we have a 3 min attention span. Now this only pertains to if we are preoccupied don't try and have serious talks with us when we watching tv with you or alone or playing video games or working on a project for work. Just say when you have some time I wanted to talk to you about some things. This way he can give his full attention and don't expect men to jump up and say okay lets talk if a day or so goes by and he doesn't ask what you wanted to talk about say I just curious if you have 10 mins to talk. Guy the same goes for you. Don't do it when they getting ready for work or cooking dinner.

    I must apoligize for any spelling errors this was all done by cell phone laying next to my wife who has fallen asleep watching tv of her choice in bed. Just thought you would find that funny.
    Ill check back for replies ina few days and again sorry if I hurt your feelings any of yours.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]

  79.  
    identicon
    Get out while you still can, Apr 9th, 2010 @ 6:00pm

    I was with a gamer for 2 years. Don't get me wrong, I love video games, but this asshole made me hate them. He never wanted to go out, never wanted to spend time with me out in public, just sat on his xbox playing halo. That's not the worst part of it though...
    I was giving him head and he told me to stop because it was distracting him from his game...ladies, when that moment happens..when you try to pleasure him and he's more interested in the game than his girlfriend...dump his ass. I don't care how much you love him, when it gets to that point, drop him and move on. I would go over to his place and just watch him play video games. Alot of the time I left him alone, but even when I asked him to just spend some time with me, take a walk, watch a movie, even play games together he still said no. He didn't even want to KISS me it got so bad. I'm not making any of this up.
    I finally snapped out of it and dumped him, and he couldn't care less. Now I'm married to an awesome nerd who plays games all he wants AND I don't even have to tell him to stop. He stops on his own, no one is controlling anyone, we do what we want, and we're happy with that. We both love video games, but we both know how to keep our priorities in check. Trust me, there are good guys out there, just dump the piece of shit you're with if he treats you anything like I was treated.

     

    reply to this | link to this | view in thread ]


Add Your Comment

Have a Techdirt Account? Sign in now. Want one? Register here
Get Techdirt’s Daily Email
Save me a cookie
  • Note: A CRLF will be replaced by a break tag (<br>), all other allowable HTML will remain intact
  • Allowed HTML Tags: <b> <i> <a> <em> <br> <strong> <blockquote> <hr> <tt>
Follow Techdirt
A word from our sponsors...
Essential Reading
Techdirt Reading List
Techdirt Insider Chat
A word from our sponsors...
Recent Stories
A word from our sponsors...

Close

Email This