The New Internet-Based Courtship Rituals

from the virtual-courting-rituals dept

It's not news that the internet is changing the way many people date, but this article suggests that it's slowing down the courtship ritual, by making people talk a lot more (by email or phone) before they get into the actual "dating" part of dating. In fact, some studies are now suggesting that couples who meet via the internet often have stronger relationships, because they actually spend more time getting to know each other (though, they also point out that email conversations lead to both more honest and more dishonest claims).

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    When will the first long-distance baby be born?

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    dorpus, Nov 12th, 2003 @ 3:53pm

    between parents who have a net relationship but don't want to get together, so one of them fed-exes a sperm packet, so the kid grows up shuttling between parents.

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    thecaptain, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 6:20am

    It makes sense.

    Meeting on the net forces 2 people (who are serious about wanting a relationship) to focus on the REAL people...not what they wear, what kind of car they have, what they look like etc. You spend time learning who a person really is...then if that image survives the actual physical meeting (because anyone who says that physical chemistry is irrelevant is either lying or terminally single) then the ACTUAL relationship starts out on much better ground than it would have if the 2 had met in a loud bar with bad music and lots of ingested alcohol.

    As for the people who lie, cheat and mislead online...well unless they are VERY VERY good at it and put a lot of effort into it (and there are some really sad people who DO...) these people usually never survive the first physical meet because the inconsistencies are too much for the other person (as for the ones who DO fool you..well that's like any relationship in real life...sometimes you get burn...you get over it)

    I didn't meet my soon-to-be wife on the net...but it was a very similar situation where we talked a lot before ever meeting...and it worked out better than I ever dreamed.

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    Re: When will the first long-distance baby be born

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    AMetamorphosis, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 6:29am

    Thanks for a good laugh this morning Dorpus !
    Lets take this idea one step further: Digital children !

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    Re: When will the first long-distance baby be born

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    dorpus, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 7:14am

    Don't laugh too hard, because it's just a matter of time before online auctions start trading children for TV sets.

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    Re: When will the first long-distance baby be born

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    AMetamorphosis, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 7:30am

    Crack heads have been doing this since the beginning ... of well, crack. Children ( sadly ) for many people are just another possession. Ever been to West Virginia ? @ least once a year I read an article about some trailer trash selling their children.

    I think it was your wording of " sperm packet " that made me laugh :-)

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    Internet cortship transcript revealed:

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    Anonymous Coward, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 7:40am

    prowler> A/S/L
    prowlee (lying)> 10 years younger than you/your prefence/within 30km
    [...]
    proler> send picture.
    prowlee (trolling picture arcives)> (sends something matching A/S/L requirements)
    [...]
    prowler> ok, lets meet.
    prowlee> provides a location just over state/country lines
    [...]
    Busted!

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    Anonymous Coward, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 7:51am

    On the other hand, you could just crank up CuSeeMe and get your endorphin fix completely anonymously with a whole group of other people while having completely meaningful conversation the contrates on really getting to know the REAL person.

    ...or some such touchie-feelie tripe.

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    Re: When will the first long-distance baby be born

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    Anonymous Coward, Nov 13th, 2003 @ 7:54am

    Screw the unicast sperm packet...

    I donate at the clinic so that I can hit the entire broadcast domain (plus they give me $75 so I can pay my monthly internet connection and domain registration/hosting fees).

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